This is one of the biggest things we get screwed up at. We don’t understand how to disagree. The problem with disagreement is quite simple – it makes the opposition feel bad. We agree with people sometimes to save our relationships, sometime jobs and most of the time, ourselves. We all need to learn the simple art of disagreement.
There was a friend of mine who disagreed with my opinion. He knew he wasn’t going to believe me no matter what I do to convince me. Yet, instead of showing his disagreement he did the job his way and then called me to the party and see how good he did it. I was annoyed, very annoyed. Not because he had done that thing differently but because he was pathetic at the art of disagreeing.
Learning to disagree is something everyone because disagreement happens everywhere, school kids to hospitalized oldies. Everyone has a right to disagree and remember that it’s now that you disagree that you face those consequences but because of your method of disagreement.
Disagreement in the Brain
When you disagree, that impulse of thought happens in your brain and instantly reaches your mouth for a shout or scream. Your disagreement maybe direct, but it will have the most venerable results.
For your disagreement to count, your thought should be processed by brain and analysed with the point of view of the person you are dealing with. For a moment, possibly, your brain may even agree with them and may want to stop opposing the opinion, but that may just not be what you want to do.
So, if you still find a point, your brain should work upon deciding things it should do so that you can tackle your disagreement.
Disagreement in Respect
Most of the time, our disagreement is considered disagreement in giving respect. Now, it is your job to convince the other person that it’s just their ideas you disagree with and not them.
Make sure you speak and put your point forward in such a way that he understands you’ve genuine point of disagreement. Honesty is the most important virtue here. If you’re honest, you’ve the most chances of winning your disagreement.
But if you want them to think you’re playing somewhere, play it the other way. Dishonesty will not only worsen your talks, but also your relationships and further dealings with that person.
10 Simple Steps to Disagree like a PRO!
So you want to be the king out there. You’ve lots of opinions and you think you’d have fared well if you disagreed. So, how to disagree? Here are some simple ideas to disagree properly.
- Don’t oppose their decision or opinion
- Try and understand their point of explanation because they may be correct
- Put your point forward in way of a question
- Don’t gobble, be straight forward with your idea
- Be honest. Say what you have to say
- Don’t try to play safe. Being open and transparent sometimes solves the problem.
- Respect that you are not the centre of the world around you
- Don’t try to make them feel insignificant or lower than you
- Stay strong on your decision
- If you ever change your decision, make sure you take help of that guy – he was right from the bottom up.
I suppose this is not it. None of my posts are. There is always lots of things left to say and explore. I’d just enjoy if you disagreed with me.