Feeling guilty? You ever feel like you went to a party and no one wanted to talk to you? You ever felt like you said something and then wish you hadn’t? Do you have lots of sorry and apologies in your words?
Do you feel depressed when someone asks you about your career? Do you think you are nothing? Guilt is all the way around you then.
To me, there was a time when feeling guilty was all I did all my day. When I blogged, I felt guilty about people who will read it; my relatives, friends etc. when I saw someone who couldn’t perform as good as me, I felt guilty about being so good.
Let me tell you, guilty is a disease. It not only affects you, it spreads in people around you, through you. So, the best way to medicate a guilty personality is to not medicate it but prevent it.
There are certain things confident people do that never puts them in the feeling of guilt. Practice these things, understand them and you might just never again need a guide to not feel guilty again.
Let Go and Forgive – Letting go is generally tough. We can’t let go of stuff easily but when we realize that the matter is over and uncontrollable, we might just be able to make our minds and not feel guilty any more.
Rethink the possibilities – You feel guilty about doing something badly and now, you think there is no way out. Why not try considering the possibilities? When you concentrate on solutions, you will feel more in control. Start searching for possibilities and control.
Appreciate yourself – We appreciate people, we do business, we make people laugh, we care for people, smile at them and do everything we can to keep others happy. Why not take out a little time and appreciate ourselves? When you appreciate yourself, you create a shield for yourself, to support yourself.
Say Sorry – If there is one thing that need to be said when we feel guilty, it is to apologize. When you apologize, you are, in a way, telling yourself that you have forgiven yourself and you are ready to be forgiven by that other person too!
Guilt is a state of mind. It is over, you can’t do anything about it, there is no way out, and probably, you have done nothing wrong. It is your depressed personality that is forcing you into guilty feeling.
To stop feeling guilty, be happy, be colourful, be truthful, be responsible. As you do these tiny things, the guilt will take care of itself and you will be free.