No matter how beautiful they might look, we as humans are selfish and we should be. Every human should make sure he is awesome and should not sacrifice or feel guilty about anything that puts him anywhere less and we should all strive to be awesome.
A selfish human doesn't necessarily mean someone that doesn't have heart or is not grateful to someone or is a cheater. It just means a person that gives himself preference over and above anything else. He give preference to not his money, belongings, relatives but himself. He is his biggest reference.
If you want give something to the world, be complete first. Be an ocean of whatever you want to give. Be an ocean of love, an ocean of life, ocean of compassion and just full of everything.
A simple guide to improving your relationships is this. Improve your relationship with yourself. I wasn't born expert, I was prepared and pushed to learning the art of relating by people who failed me, ditched me and eventually left me. They were definitely the best people I met. I am quite proud that I've met so lot of them in so little a time.
So, here is one of the best list on improving your relationships.
1. Stop pushing relationships - I've learned that pushes are bad. They are hard, they are scary and they are discriminate. Honestly, this one comes from a girl. I had a crush on her, a deeeeeep crush. After five years of fielding around, I found myself a space. She was never actually the girl I wanted to be with. I was simply pushing around because I had locked myself in what I was. I had locked myself to her.
But now you know what to do. Stop pushing in relationships. If you are "enjoying" with someone, be. If you feel stressed, just let it go. If you've to pull or push a relation, it isn't working.
2. Stop trying to change people - This one comes the hard way. There are people we can't change or stop being with. Spouse, parents, children and some people have neighbours that bother them. Then we try to change them with our anger and frustration, tricks and plans, words and "wisdom". Stop doing that, the world is never going to find peace that way, no are you doing to!
Learn the art of being yourself, immersed in yourself. That is when you won't care about anyone else. Here, not caring means you are just ignoring what they are and what they do. You are selfish enough to be yourself and take you own actions without getting dis-symmetric.
Try the miracle methods to improving your relationships.
Babaji always teaches that Gratitude and Unconditional love are the key to improving anything in life. Just sit down and imagine all the good thing, be grateful to those good things in relationships. Somehow, it works!